Every culture has ideas it mistakes for truth. I believe one of ours is resilience.
We’ve normalized adaptations that helped us survive and
mistaken them for personality, strength, success, and resilience.
We've confused resilience with endurance.
Celebrated self-sacrifice as strength.
Praised people for making it work while quietly disconnecting from themselves.
My work explores what happens when we redefine resilience—not as becoming harder to break, but as becoming more deeply rooted in who we are so we can live freely and share our unique perspective with the world.
The Conversation
What if the most meaningful change doesn't begin with better habits — it begins with better questions? Questions like...
What if burnout isn't the problem?
What if perfectionism isn't your personality?
What if resilience has been misunderstood?
What if many of the strengths we admire are actually worn out survival patterns that outlived the circumstances that created them?
Through essays, reflections, and research, I explore the hidden ways outdated patterns shape our lives—and what becomes possible when we begin living from conscious choice instead.
These aren't articles about becoming a new version of yourself.
They're invitations to remember the version of your that learned to hide in order to belong, achieve, succeed, or be loved — to give yourself permission to have what you want without having ot work so damn hard to earn it.
Always Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?
Feel Like You're Always Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?
Even when things are “fine”?
I see you.
I see you. Sad. Frustrated. At your wits end BUT putting on a happy face.
You’re not sleeping well. You’re burnt out. Sometimes you’re short with people around you. And you’re really hard on yourself.
Your heart is heavy. You went through something really hard and it’s Dragging. You. Down.
Even though you’re strong…That hard thing that happened feels like a tether that holds you back no matter what you do, how much you accomplish, or how much time passes.
You’ve tried everything you can think of but moving forward with genuine peace in your heart is an elusive goal you’ve begun to wonder if you’ll ever achieve.
No more.
It’s time to heal what’s been holding you back so you feel free.
My Renegade Daughter OnDemand program will teach you how in just 4 weeks.
This course consists of the most valuable, life-changing lessons, practices and guides from my private 1:1 program in a condensed, unedited 4-week on-demand format.
Here’s what you’ll get:
👉4 Weeks of Empowering Virtual Lessons and Deep Self-guided Inner Work (~30-40 mins/week)
👉Holistic Body, Mind, Spirit Approach
👉Simple Step-by-Step Guides
👉Powerful Guided Meditations
💥FREEDOM!
If you have been weighed down by life, I want you to have my Renegade Daughter program so you can begin feeling better TODAY. You’ll learn simple, powerful strategies and tools that will empower you to create real, lasting changes in your life.
The cost is $222 and it may be the most valuable thing you’ll ever do for yourself.
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Are you fed up with the past weighing you down?
Are you fed up with the past weighing you down?
How to Heal Your Past So You Feel Free
HERE’S THE THING: I can spot you a mile away – you’re weighed down by life. You’re showing up on the outside but inside you’re hurting badly. You’re burning so much energy just getting through the day with a half-smile pasted on your face. I can see through that facade and want to know more because – I can help. I can show you how to help yourself.
And I’m fed up with not helping enough.
Recently I was reading the description of a book I’m considering reading this summer and it had a few quotes, one of which stopped me in my tracks. It said: “I imagine it would feel wonderful to be good at something that mattered…” (from The Women, by Kristin Hannah).
“I know that feeling!” I thought. It does feel wonderful to be good at something that matters.
Healing the past so we can be free matters.
I can say that from my own first-hand experience, as well as from others I’ve supported in empowering themselves to heal the past, so they can be free both in the present and for the rest of their lives. I’m really good at it!
BUT I’M NOT DOING ENOUGH OF IT.
I hold this tremendous ability to help people heal and be free, but not enough people know it. The clients I have had the privilege of supporting will gladly tell you quite enthusiastically how their lives have been forever changed. BUT I’m just one lady and I want to help SO many more — thousands, even millions, I dream — and since as a coach I can only work with a very small number of private clients at one time, I’m just not reaching enough people.
So I’ve decided to cut myself out as the middle-person and make the most valuable, life-changing lessons, practices and guides from my private 1:1 program available in a condensed, unedited 4-week on-demand format.
If you have been weighed down by life, I want you to have my Renegade Daughter program.
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Heal what’s holding you back so you can be free!
What a failed past relationship has to do with your fertility
What a failed past relationship has to do with your fertility
Remember that relationship where you were devastated when it ended because you thought that person was “the one“? The one where you worked hard to stay together because you thought at the time it was meant to be?
If you had held onto that person, would you have met the love of your life? Would you now be with someone you’re hoping your baby will take after?
I ask this because we’ve all been there and, when we look back, we see how things had to go down exactly as they did for them to work out as they have now.
So…what if everything IS working out on your fertility journey? I know you wanted to be pregnant last month and it’s not frustrating to get your hopes up and then get your period. But what if it’s possible there are factors at play that are working FOR you even when it seems like they’re not? Just like that old relationship you wouldn’t go back to now if someone paid you $100K.
It can be so hard to trust that things are working out as they’re supposed to when we can’t see into the future.
I’m here to remind you your job is to keep your eye on that future and trust that it’s on its way BEFORE it happens, that the path there lies in spending your time in the feeling of that future NOW.
Try this to put it into practice (and then comment below w/your questions/observations):
Open the Notes app on your phone or grab a sheet of paper and write down 5 things you’re looking forward to about being pregnant and/or having a baby
For each, identify the emotion you’re looking forward to experiencing
Lastly, ask yourself: how can I experience those emotions in my life (exactly as it) TODAY?
(P.S. My private Conception Accelerator Coaching program supports you in going deep in the trust and releasing what gets in the way of staying there – set up a free Strategy Session if you want to empower yourself with a proven framework to get your positive pregnancy test.)
Wondering which fertility-boosting foods are right for you?
Wondering which fertility boosting foods are right for you?
One of my favorite comedians is coming into town. My life is so full at the moment between work and family and special events, logistics, meals and cleaning and… You get the idea, we’re all there in our own way.
So when I saw one of my favorite comedians was coming to town, I went pretty quickly from “yay!” to “I’m too tired to make that happen.” But then this little voice popped in my head and was like “wait a minute, I’m too exhausted from daily life and the things I do for others that I’m not going to make plans to go share some laughs with a friend?”
This is where the value of my daily self-connection practice comes in. It’s possible I am literally too tired, or logistically it would be too challenging or for whatever reason going to the show may not serve me. And that would be ok. When I make that decision from the place of allowing the possibility, it feels entirely different than if I simply say I can’t, I can’t go, which feels limiting. If I don’t go, it’s because I’m choosing not to go based on what feels best to me.
I started practicing this inward self- connection when I was trying to conceive. The Internet is full of “helpful“ advice on things women can do to up their odds each month.
Each of those things has the potential to be helpful, but we are each unique individuals and so what suits each of us best is relative. Only you can determine which activities will feel good to you. And that should be the only filter when determining what supports your TTC goals —does this feel supportive? If so, great! If not, skip it.
Your ability to make that determination comes from intentionally practicing self connection on an ongoing basis, not just when a decision needs to be made. I’m here to give you the exact steps to build that practice for yourself. Schedule a free chat learn more.
(P.S.this is also the type of stuff we talk about in my free Reconnecting with your Fertility community. Be sure to join if you aren't already a member!)