Can’t stop symptom-spotting during the two-week-wait?

Can’t stop symptom-spotting during the two-week-wait?

Of course it’s normal to be curious whether this will be your month!

The problem comes in when that curiosity shifts from excitement to stress, and no longer feels good. It feels more like you NEED it to happen.

You find yourself almost trying not to get your hopes up, and you think “what if there’s something wrong?” more times a day than you’d care to count.

THIS is where my fertility coaching comes in. It is the quickest path to motherhood. Yes, I realize that sounds like a sales technique but I promise with all my heart, my belief in this process comes from seeing these EXACT STEPS work over and over and over – in just 8 weeks – for so many women who were struggling to conceive. 

If you find yourself more anxious than excited, worried about the amount of time that’s passing, scrolling to get your mind off whether or not you’ll conceive this month, I’m here to support you.

The first thing you need to understand is I am not a fertility specialist. I am not a doctor who is going to tell you what to eat and which supplements to take and whether or not to take your basal body temperature or use OPKs or track your cervical mucus, or how often to have sex around ovulation or whether you should stand on your head for 10 minutes after doing the deed… 

That’s not what I’m good at and there are loads of resources out there with opinions on that stuff. 

What I AM good at is helping you understand yourself from a holistic perspective, so you can reconnect with yourself in such a way that having the family and life you dream of comes with ease, and quickly.

You already have everything you need to have the family and life you want. My job is to show you how. This is THE quickest way out of overwhelm and into motherhood.

Schedule a free Conception Accelerator Strategy session (phone chat) to learn more about private coaching today.

Losing Your Mind Tracking Ovulation and Pregnancy Symptoms?

Losing Your Mind Tracking Ovulation and Pregnancy Symptoms?

there’s another way…

I assumed when I went off birth control I’d get pregnant pretty quickly.

When it didn’t happen right away, within just a few months I started stressing. I talked to my OB/Gyn at my annual visit and FELT LIKE SHE DIDN’T UNDERSTAND ME (“Why was I worrying?” I was young enough, hadn’t been trying for more than a year, etc. they said.). I left feeling dismissed.

And so I started Googling and trying things the internet says may up the odds of conception. Before long, I was driving myself up the wall, timing and tracking things, taking supplements, putting my legs up after sex, etc…lots of things “just in case”. I didn’t even realize how much anxiety these activities were causing, because I was so focused on doing what I thought was necessary.

💥But there was something deeper at play.

The reason I didn’t feel supported by the OB was I was coming at this whole TTC thing from a place of fear. I WAS AFRAID I WASN’T DOING ENOUGH, that it wasn’t just going to HAPPEN for me, since it hadn’t happened in those first few months.

When I felt dismissed by my doc, it was because I wanted them to affirm I had something to worry about. I wanted them to tell me that putting in extra effort would get me to my goal faster. But they didn’t. Because it’s not necessarily true.

It wasn’t until I started doing the inner work to acknowledge the fear that I began doing what I actually NEEDED to do in order to conceive: Relax.

I know, that’s one of the most annoying things to hear when you’re TTC.

But it’s the only way, and I’m here to teach you HOW.

How to truly believe: “I’m going to have a baby. If more information is needed, I’ll know. I can relax.”

Can you imagine feeling that way? It’s 💯% possible.

The fact is, the more you DO, the more your nervous system stays on high alert. And when your nervous system is ramped up, your body is literally less capable of conceiving. It’s a simple fact of how humans are designed to survive.

When you learn to allow inner work to come first, and let go of whatever led you to believe it’s NOT OKAY to relax, doing less comes NATURALLY.

And so does having the family of your dreams.

Were You Hopeful When You First Started Trying to Conceive?

Were You Hopeful When You First Started Trying to Conceive?

But then things took a turn when you weren’t pregnant by the month/season/holiday you had in mind?

I believe Emotional Unfinished Business (EUB) with the past is THE reason women struggle to conceive and have healthy pregnancies when and how they want to.

If this wasn’t the case, you wouldn’t be stressing about it. You’d trust your baby is on its way and be loving life in the meantime.

Were you hopeful when you first started trying but things took a turn when you weren’t pregnant within the timeframe you had in mind?

Emotional Unfinished Business is why you’re:

⚡️Stressing rather than trusting it’s going to happen (This is a product of your nervous system learning fight or flight as the norm, which can result from a messy childhood, a parent who wasn’t around or expected perfection, a partner who was abusive, etc…)

⚡️Disconnected from your inherent ability to create the life you want with ease (This is often a result of needing to put others needs/desires before your own)

⚡️Feeling stuck. No matter what you do it never seems to be enough (This is because there are old emotions stored in your body, ones that were not able to be processed at the time they were experienced (because for whatever reason it wasn’t safe/available for you to do so)

If this resonates with you, I’m here to show you the path to freedom! Join my Reconnecting with you Fertility group, or schedule a free Conception Strategy Session to get started today.

Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for? Try this.

Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for?

Most women who are trying to conceive get caught in a perpetual loop of trying to fix what might be wrong. Trying to figure out why it hasn’t happened yet.

When you’re focused on fixing, you’re focused on something being wrong. Which might be helpful IF there is in fact something wrong. But otherwise it simply keeps you stuck in the energy of not having what you want. 

Try this instead:  

1. Say to yourself “If there’s more I need to do/know about whether I’m pregnant or how to get pregnant asap, it will become apparent. I don’t need to try harder to fix things or know before my body is ready to tell me. I can trust myself to know.”

2. Grab your journal or a piece of paper and write down 5 things you’re looking forward to about being a mom. 

3. For each, spend a moment identify the FEELING you’ll experience when that thing you’re looking forward to actually happens

4. Notice where you feel that emotion in your body, what it feels like to experience what you’re looking forward to about motherhood.

5. Soak in that feeling, and set the intention to return to it when you noice your mind start looping again (eventually it will get easier, I promise).

If your mind jumps in and says “DANGER! Don’t get your hopes up!”, lovingly thank it for trying to protect you from disappointment and see if you can allow the possibility.

Your future results depend on your current thoughts and feelings. By choosing to participate in the thoughts and feelings you’re going for, you connect yourself to those results. 

If you try this, let me know in the comments how it goes. No judgment, just love and compassion. It takes practice, but you are worth it.