Does a Miscarriage Affect Your Fertility?
Does a Miscarriage Affect Your Fertility?
Let’s get one thing straight from the start: No, a miscarriage doesn’t usually affect your fertility—unless you let fear, shame, or unprocessed grief convince you that it does.
And that? That’s where so many women get stuck—not in a broken body, but in the aftershocks of a heartbreak no one taught them how to hold. A miscarriage can feel like everything is slipping through your fingers. But fertility isn’t a math equation. Your body isn’t a machine. And healing—real, deep, transformational healing—is always possible.
Here’s the truth:
You can absolutely get pregnant again.
You can absolutely feel powerful in your body again.
And you can absolutely come out of this more connected to the version of you that’s meant to be a mother.
But first, let’s talk about what can cause miscarriage—and how to know if your body needs extra support now.
I Know This Path Intimately
I know this fertility journey not just as a coach and healer—but as a woman who’s lived it.
Both of my daughters are rainbow babies, conceived after pregnancy losses that rocked me to my core. I know the heartbreak of seeing two lines…and then watching them disappear. I know the disorienting mix of hope and fear, the obsessive Googling, the anger at your own body, and the silence that makes it all feel worse.
But those losses led me somewhere I never expected:
A journey of deep healing.
Radical self-trust.
And a powerful understanding of how manifestation actually works—not just to call in a baby, but to co-create the life you’re meant for.
This transformation didn’t just bring me my daughters. It brought me back to myself. And it’s the foundation of the work I now do with other women—supporting them in reconnecting with their power, processing the pain, and creating space for the future they long for.
Reasons for Miscarriage
If you’ve been frantically googling things like cause of miscarriage, why do I keep having early miscarriages, or even can I cause a miscarriage?—I see you. The pain of miscarriage can create a vacuum where logic and self-trust disappear. You start questioning everything you’ve done. Everything you are.
Let me be clear:
You didn’t cause this.
Miscarriage is incredibly common, especially in early pregnancy. Most often, the causes of miscarriage stem from genetic or hormonal factors—not anything you did, said, ate, thought, or forgot to do. Despite what the internet might imply, things like lifting something heavy, having sex, or going on a run aren’t to blame. And while the question “Can sperm cause miscarriage in early pregnancy?” pops up a lot, the answer is essentially no—unless there's a very specific medical condition involved, which is rare.
So if you’ve been searching for answers about the causes of recurrent miscarriage, know this: yes, sometimes there’s something concrete and addressable, like uterine abnormalities, autoimmune conditions, or thyroid imbalances. But often, miscarriage is your body’s heartbreaking way of protecting you from a pregnancy that wasn't viable from the start.
Still, it’s essential to ask deeper questions—not to place blame, but to uncover what’s trying to come into balance now.
So why do recurrent miscarriages happen?
There are medical factors that can contribute to repeat pregnancy loss. Common causes of recurrent miscarriage include:
Uterine abnormalities (like fibroids or a septum)
Immune system disorders (such as antiphospholipid syndrome)
Hormonal imbalances (like low progesterone or thyroid dysfunction)
Chromosomal issues with one or both partners
And even then, it’s not always black and white. Sometimes testing reveals answers. Sometimes it doesn’t. That doesn’t mean your body is broken—it means you’re human, and fertility isn’t a formula.
Still, if you’re wondering things like how can I cause a miscarriage? or blaming yourself for things outside your control, please know: This is your grief talking. Not the truth.
Unpacking the Shame
Let’s address the elephant in the room: shame.
Society often treats miscarriage like a taboo. Something whispered about. A personal failing. You’re told not to announce your pregnancy until 12 weeks, “just in case.” And when a loss does happen, the silence is deafening.
But here’s what no one says loud enough: Miscarriage is incredibly common. You are not alone. And you are not to blame.
This culture of secrecy only deepens the wound. You’re allowed to grieve, rage, cry, question everything—and still believe in your body’s wisdom. Healing starts when you let your truth exist, even if it’s messy.
Signs of Hormonal Imbalance After Miscarriage
Now let’s talk about your body. After a miscarriage, your hormones shift dramatically. Depending on how far along you were and how the miscarriage happened (naturally, with medication, or surgically), your system might need time to recalibrate.
These shifts can be confusing—especially if no one’s told you what to expect. Common signs of hormone imbalance after miscarriage include:
Irregular or missing periods
Mood swings, anxiety, or depression that don’t ease
Fatigue that feels deeper than grief
Sleep disruptions or night sweats
Difficulty tracking ovulation
PMS that feels more intense than usual
So let’s look under the hood.
Key Hormones to Watch
Progesterone – This is the big one. Low progesterone can contribute to difficulty maintaining early pregnancy. It also impacts mood, sleep, and cycle regulation.
Estrogen – You might be wondering, can low estrogen cause miscarriage? The answer is: yes, it can. Estrogen supports the uterine lining and plays a critical role in the first half of your cycle.
Thyroid Hormones – Undiagnosed thyroid issues are a sneaky culprit behind many fertility struggles and miscarriages. They affect nearly every system in your body—including your ability to conceive and carry.
Cortisol – Your stress hormone. Elevated cortisol from prolonged stress, trauma, or burnout can disrupt your entire hormonal ecosystem.
When people ask, what hormone causes miscarriage?, the real answer is: it’s never just one. Your hormones operate in a dynamic, interconnected dance. If one is off, others often follow. And in the case of chromosomal abnormalities, your hormones aren’t the culprit anyway.
How to Balance Hormones After Miscarriage
Here’s the good news: You don’t need to jump into invasive pregnancy loss treatments to begin healing.
There are deeply effective, body-honoring ways to bring your hormones into balance—without overriding your intuition or outsourcing your power.
This might include:
Nutritional support to stabilize blood sugar and support hormone production
Supplementation with high-quality vitamins and minerals (based on testing, not guesswork)
Nervous system regulation through breathwork, embodiment, and nervous system repair
Cycle tracking (the right way) to understand your hormonal rhythms
Trauma-informed coaching or therapy to help process the emotional layers that get stored in the body
Your body is wise.
She knows how to heal.
But she does need you to listen.
You’re Not Fragile. You’re Becoming.
This part of the journey might feel like it’s breaking you. But what if it’s breaking you open?
Miscarriage is not the end of your story. It can be the start of your true alignment—the version of you who’s not just checking boxes or following protocols, but deeply connected to her power, her purpose, and her intuition.
I didn’t just survive my pregnancy losses—I alchemized them. I stopped obsessing over what more I could do and started asking who I needed to become. I healed at the root, realigned with my truth, and watched my life expand beyond what I ever thought was possible—including the babies I thought might never come.
That version of me? She’s the one who became a mother. She’s the one who gets to guide other women into their own becoming now.
You are not fragile. You are being forged.
This grief? It’s sacred.
This pain? It holds wisdom.
This moment? It’s asking you to remember who you are—not just who you’ve been.
You get to mother yourself through this before you mother someone else.
You get to create space, not just for a baby, but for the life you actually want to live.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
Ready to Reclaim Your Power?
If you’re ready to stop spinning in fear and start creating clarity—for your body, your hormones, and your path to motherhood—I’d love to support you.
I’ve walked this path. I’ve sat in that dark place. And I know what’s possible when you’re finally held, seen, and supported at the root.
👉 Schedule your free Conception Strategy Session and let’s uncover what’s really going on beneath the surface—then build a customized, holistic plan to move forward with confidence, compassion, and power.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
And you are so much closer than you realize.
How To Look To The Future With Hope After Loss…
How To Look To The Future With Hope After Loss…
…even if you’re scared of getting stuck in feelings of sadness.
My journey to becoming a mother was a bumpy one. Having come through to the other side, I can now see clearly many of the “silver linings”, lessons that I carry with me to this day, which came from those dark times.
Note: This is not a “everything happens for a reason” post. I know that’s not helpful. I’m interested in sharing what DOES make a difference on the road to healing after pregnancy loss.
The fact is, it’s nearly impossible to heal when something hurts so badly that each time we think about it we have to push it away, shove it down, save it for later or else risk losing control.
The bad news
There are no two ways about it: When we push something under the rug, it leaves a lump. And each time we tread there, we are left with the choice of going out of our way to circumvent it OR to stay the course and trip over it each time. What’s not allowed will remain; as the saying goes “what we resist, persists.”
When it comes to losing a baby, that lump in the rug is pretty big: thoughts of what went wrong, what might have been, what it means for the future…the grief, sadness, anger and resentment can be extremely overwhelming and the fact is most of us are not prepared nor equipped to handle it.
Add to it the roller coaster of lingering pregnancy hormones flooding your body, combined with stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline (triggered by your body’s natural “fight or flight” response), and it’s no wonder you feel like a mess.
The good news
Allowing the unwelcome feelings at a time you choose can be extremely empowering, and we have a resource that walks you through how. It’s a free guided meditation.
By simply giving yourself the time and space to honor how you feel, you can allow your feelings to come to the surface without getting stuck in them, offer yourself some much-needed and -deserved compassion and relief, and in time, truly heal.
KindNest offers a range of options for supporting yourself in allowing the unwelcome emotions, so you may take steps in the direction of healing and looking to the future with hope, ranging from a Healing Essentials digital course to one-on-one coaching.
The Most Important Takeaway From My Fertility-to-Parenting Journey
Introduction:
My name is Sarah Denio and I want to share with you the story of how I became the founder of KindNest, a hub of simple, natural, powerful resources for fertility, healing after loss, pregnancy, parenting and wellness.
To understand the most important takeaway, it’s helpful to know the back story…
WHAT HAPPENED: THE BACKSTORY
I come from a large extended family, with my parents having a combined total of 19 siblings. Therefore I had always assumed that starting my own family would happen easily. Like many, I spent years actively preventing pregnancy until I was ready to have kids, and then I thought it would just happen.
After I met my husband and we got married, we decided to start trying for a baby. I thought it was going to happen pretty much right away. I’m not typically a super anxious person, but when I wasn’t pregnant after the first few months, I started getting nervous. Was something wrong?
And so I did what many of us do when faced with fear: I began trying to control as much of the process as I possibly could. I started micro-managing everything I could possibly think of that might “increase my chances of conception.”
Not only was I timing intercourse, but I was also spending exorbitant amounts of time on fertility and pregnancy blogs, apps and podcasts, taking my temperature, tracking the day of my cycle and how many days post ovulation I was, trolling the ends of the internet learning about cervical mucus, symptom-spotting early signs of pregnancy during the dreaded two-week-wait…you name it — if it can’t hurt, might help, I was on it.
Then, just a few short months later, I got pregnant! I was overjoyed! All my worries and fears dissolved to thin air as I blissfully traded my micro-management tasks for day-dreaming about telling my friends and eying the Maternity section at Target.
But my bliss was short-lived.
A little over a month later, I lost the baby. At our first prenatal visit, my husband and I had gotten to see our little bean’s healthy heartbeat, so the shock of finding out our baby was no longer living upon returning a few weeks later…it was devastating.
I had a D&C (a medical procedure to remove the “products of conception” ←horrible term if you ask me…) and went home feeling like a hollow shell. I wasn’t sure I wanted to put myself through that again, though I really wanted to have a baby.
Then, though I couldn’t see it at the time, something amazing happened…
I turned the focus of my internet researching skills to this new topic of pregnancy loss and was amazed to find scientific evidence that loss is significantly less likely when pregnant people receive additional support. It wasn’t crazy stuff either; it was simple things like calming the mind and honoring the time of a previous loss.
This was enough for me to muster the courage to try again. I didn’t actually DO anything differently, mind you, but I decided to try and believe that if others could have babies after loss, so could I.
I became pregnant again a few short months later but rather than feeling excited I was scared to death. What it if happened again? It was such a mind-screw: being pregnant was exactly what I wanted, more than anything, and yet I was plagued by fear and anxiety about the fact that I was — I checked the toilet paper for blood each time I went to the bathroom, poked at my breasts to see if they were still tender and reminded myself not to get too excited each time my mind wandered to a future including a baby.
It was such a roller coaster.
And then my worst fears came true. I lost that baby too. Now, not only did I have the grief of loss and question of whether something was wrong with me to cope with, but also the nagging feeling that perhaps my fear and anxiety had had something to do with it. Of course there was no way of knowing, but it certainly added salt to the wound.
We found out about the second loss at my OB’s office where the doctor told me I’d be sent for testing if it happened again. (This seems to be standard protocol, testing after a 3rd consecutive loss…!) I couldn’t fathom the thought of waiting to see if it happened again and asked for the testing sooner. I was referred to a local fertility clinic where testing found no notable cause for my losses.
But…while I was under their care, I became pregnant again (without medical intervention). The old fear and anxiety were raring and ready to go, BUT this time, per fertility clinic protocol, I received concrete evidence via ultrasounds and bloodwork each week that my little one was still growing, which enabled me to keep the darkest demons at bay.
9 months later, my 1st daughter was born, a healthy 7+ lbs, after 24hours of unmedicated labor, an epidural, another 8 hours of labor, and ultimately C-section. She was colicky, not gaining weight properly during her first weeks of life, and wouldn’t sleep anywhere but the car, but she was here and I was overjoyed! I had done it. I became a mother.
But the backstory doesn’t end there…
After that, I decided to wait a year or so and then give TTC another go so my husband and I could complete our mission of having 2 kids, as we had always envisioned.
But there was still a problem.
You may recall that when I became pregnant with my 1st daughter, I hadn’t actually done anything differently, which meant when I started trying again the old fear and anxiety were waiting in the wings. I hadn’t really healed from the prior losses or learned to believe in my body’s innate wisdom and capabilities. When we began trying again after my daughter turned 1, I told myself the prior losses had to have been a fluke.
And then we lost 2 more babies.
After the first I had another D&C. Following the next (what thankfully turned out to be the last) loss, EVERYTHING CHANGED.
HOW IT GOT THE FAMILY I WANTED
I KNEW I had to do something differently. I felt it in my bones. “This isn’t working. Something HAS to change” I heard myself say. And I recalled the research showing significantly better outcomes when pregnant people receive additional support. Since that type of support wasn’t readily available, I decided to figure out what it meant for me and to do whatever was needed to create it myself.
It began with choosing not to have a medical procedure to “take care of things”. Of course no one had said those words to me, but it’s how it felt to me. Like the losses and everything to do with them were happening to me and I was just helplessly along for the ride.
I instead waited for my body to recognize what was happening and worked through it all at home. That allowed me to begin feeling like I had some say in the situation, and that I could trust my body to do the right thing.
I had felt like someone else had been recklessly driving this train of my fertility journey, and I decided to take back the wheel.
I started studying yoga and mediation at home and practicing what I learned each morning, to train my mind to slow down and focus on what I wanted. I took a hard look at my diet and tried a couple different cleanses. I planted a vegetable garden from seed for the very first time, and witnessed my ability to nurture and grow life as some of the seeds withered away and others blossomed to bear fruit.
Ultimately, I occupied my mind with new thoughts and engaged my body in activities that FELT GOOD. Which had the side benefit of meaning I spent less time worrying about whether and when I would have another baby.
I didn’t understand it at the time but what I now know is this really meant I was no longer living in survival mode: I was no longer flooding my body with stress hormones day and night thanks all my pointless micro-managing, “doing doing doing” to conceive.
Just 3 months later, we conceived our 2nd daughter, to whom I gave birth in a completely natural, unmedicated VBAC delivery for which I arrived at the hospital already 10 cm dilated and pushed for 3 hours. It was one of the most empowering experiences of my life. I had no drugs, no tearing, no hemorrhoids, no fear… Her birth not only codified my family of 4 but the strength of my relationship to myself and my ability to give birth to ANYTHING my heart desires.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I LEARNED & HOW IT CHANGED MY LIFE
How would I sum up the point of this story? The most important thing I learned is that all I ever needed to do was embrace living my life and being my true self. Shedding what was no longer serving me and embracing what felt good.
Perhaps that sounds overly simple but in truth, most of us have no idea HOW to do that. It takes coming to a cross roads of sorts to motivate us seek out the resources needed to make a change that realigns our lives. And then making that choice to DO something.
Otherwise the inertia of life as it is propels us years in to the future, whether we like it or not. It begins with that one problem we feel we need to tackle, and if we find the right person to show us how, it then permeates ALL areas of life.
That’s what I did. I needed to tackle how to become a parent and in doing so, I learned how to become myself. I can now manifest anything my heart desires.
When all was said and done I had begun living my life in a way that felt good each day, which means I’m a more joyful person, loving wife, patient mother, connected daughter and real friend to this day.
SO many of the things I had been doing to try and get and stay pregnant were fleeting and unproductive… But now I can truly say that because of this, I am forever changed, for the better.
Which is why I decided to create KindNest, to make it simple for others to embrace their lives as I have learned to do, shed what’s no longer serving them and become themselves. I became a coach so I could operationalize what I had learned on my own journey and share with others how they too can transform from controlling to embracing, using simple tools and practices, and be forever changed for the better.
KindNest’s mission is to help individuals build the families of their dreams, by simply becoming who they are meant to BE.
Whether you’re trying again after a loss or have been at it for a few months but it feels more like a few years… Whether you’ve been diagnosed with infertility or OCD or depression or some other medical label, are already in the middle of fertility treatments, or had 3 kids but have lost yourself along the way, I want you to know there IS hope, you are not alone, and it can be much simpler than you ever imagined from this point forward. Reach out to learn more.