Can’t stop symptom-spotting during the two-week-wait?

Can’t stop symptom-spotting during the two-week-wait?

Of course it’s normal to be curious whether this will be your month!

The problem comes in when that curiosity shifts from excitement to stress, and no longer feels good. It feels more like you NEED it to happen.

You find yourself almost trying not to get your hopes up, and you think “what if there’s something wrong?” more times a day than you’d care to count.

THIS is where my fertility coaching comes in. It is the quickest path to motherhood. Yes, I realize that sounds like a sales technique but I promise with all my heart, my belief in this process comes from seeing these EXACT STEPS work over and over and over – in just 8 weeks – for so many women who were struggling to conceive. 

If you find yourself more anxious than excited, worried about the amount of time that’s passing, scrolling to get your mind off whether or not you’ll conceive this month, I’m here to support you.

The first thing you need to understand is I am not a fertility specialist. I am not a doctor who is going to tell you what to eat and which supplements to take and whether or not to take your basal body temperature or use OPKs or track your cervical mucus, or how often to have sex around ovulation or whether you should stand on your head for 10 minutes after doing the deed… 

That’s not what I’m good at and there are loads of resources out there with opinions on that stuff. 

What I AM good at is helping you understand yourself from a holistic perspective, so you can reconnect with yourself in such a way that having the family and life you dream of comes with ease, and quickly.

You already have everything you need to have the family and life you want. My job is to show you how. This is THE quickest way out of overwhelm and into motherhood.

Schedule a free Conception Accelerator Strategy session (phone chat) to learn more about private coaching today.

Losing Your Mind Tracking Ovulation and Pregnancy Symptoms?

Losing Your Mind Tracking Ovulation and Pregnancy Symptoms?

there’s another way…

I assumed when I went off birth control I’d get pregnant pretty quickly.

When it didn’t happen right away, within just a few months I started stressing. I talked to my OB/Gyn at my annual visit and FELT LIKE SHE DIDN’T UNDERSTAND ME (“Why was I worrying?” I was young enough, hadn’t been trying for more than a year, etc. they said.). I left feeling dismissed.

And so I started Googling and trying things the internet says may up the odds of conception. Before long, I was driving myself up the wall, timing and tracking things, taking supplements, putting my legs up after sex, etc…lots of things “just in case”. I didn’t even realize how much anxiety these activities were causing, because I was so focused on doing what I thought was necessary.

💥But there was something deeper at play.

The reason I didn’t feel supported by the OB was I was coming at this whole TTC thing from a place of fear. I WAS AFRAID I WASN’T DOING ENOUGH, that it wasn’t just going to HAPPEN for me, since it hadn’t happened in those first few months.

When I felt dismissed by my doc, it was because I wanted them to affirm I had something to worry about. I wanted them to tell me that putting in extra effort would get me to my goal faster. But they didn’t. Because it’s not necessarily true.

It wasn’t until I started doing the inner work to acknowledge the fear that I began doing what I actually NEEDED to do in order to conceive: Relax.

I know, that’s one of the most annoying things to hear when you’re TTC.

But it’s the only way, and I’m here to teach you HOW.

How to truly believe: “I’m going to have a baby. If more information is needed, I’ll know. I can relax.”

Can you imagine feeling that way? It’s 💯% possible.

The fact is, the more you DO, the more your nervous system stays on high alert. And when your nervous system is ramped up, your body is literally less capable of conceiving. It’s a simple fact of how humans are designed to survive.

When you learn to allow inner work to come first, and let go of whatever led you to believe it’s NOT OKAY to relax, doing less comes NATURALLY.

And so does having the family of your dreams.

Were You Hopeful When You First Started Trying to Conceive?

Were You Hopeful When You First Started Trying to Conceive?

But then things took a turn when you weren’t pregnant by the month/season/holiday you had in mind?

I believe Emotional Unfinished Business (EUB) with the past is THE reason women struggle to conceive and have healthy pregnancies when and how they want to.

If this wasn’t the case, you wouldn’t be stressing about it. You’d trust your baby is on its way and be loving life in the meantime.

Were you hopeful when you first started trying but things took a turn when you weren’t pregnant within the timeframe you had in mind?

Emotional Unfinished Business is why you’re:

⚡️Stressing rather than trusting it’s going to happen (This is a product of your nervous system learning fight or flight as the norm, which can result from a messy childhood, a parent who wasn’t around or expected perfection, a partner who was abusive, etc…)

⚡️Disconnected from your inherent ability to create the life you want with ease (This is often a result of needing to put others needs/desires before your own)

⚡️Feeling stuck. No matter what you do it never seems to be enough (This is because there are old emotions stored in your body, ones that were not able to be processed at the time they were experienced (because for whatever reason it wasn’t safe/available for you to do so)

If this resonates with you, I’m here to show you the path to freedom! Join my Reconnecting with you Fertility group, or schedule a free Conception Strategy Session to get started today.

The Most Important Question to Ask if You're Stressing about Conceiving

The Most Important Question to Ask if You're Stressing about Conceiving

Do you remember before you started trying to conceive, what you thought it would be like? Maybe it happens pretty quickly — you just do the deed and next thing you know you’re hopping around the bathroom hugging your partner after revealing the positive test? For once, things just go according to plan.

Fast forward to now. Can you believe how the list of what it takes to have a baby has grown? So much doubt and fear creeps in…

• Should I be changing my diet? 

• Is it OK to have a glass of wine or two at my friend’s bday dinner? 

• Should I be monitoring my cycle more closely? 

• Should I be doing more to know for certain when I am ovulating? 

• Should I be doing things to help boost implantation after I think I ovulated?

• The list is endless.

The question 

If you are amazed by how quickly you went from thinking you’d be pregnant by now to stressing about what may be wrong, ASK YOURSELF this question: Is this feeling new? Or does it feel familiar?

Does it remind you of how you’ve felt not only about getting pregnant but in other areas of your life, recently or when you were younger?

Does it feel like trying to have a baby is one more thing that isn’t working out, like you have to work extra hard when it seems to come easily for others, or like you have to put on a happy face when really you're ashamed/sad/furious inside?

If so, it makes perfect sense that having a baby has become daunting, even though there is no right or wrong way to go about it. 

The Solution

The only thing that matters is what serves YOU, and TO KNOW WHAT THAT IS REQUIRES CONNECTION WITH YOURSELF – SOMETHING THAT WAS LIKELY SHUT DOWN ALONG THE WAY BECAUSE YOU LEARNED TO PUT OTHERS’ NEEDS FIRST. 

Being connected to yourself is the only way you’ll know what YOU need to have a baby. If changing your diet will feel good or like you’re restricting yourself… If having a drink will feel celebratory or like you’re messing up your chances this month… If you should be using OPKs or if the data will cause your mind to spin…

Next Steps

I can help you resolve the unfinished business from your past in just 8 weeks. When that occurs, having a baby will be the natural byproduct. Schedule a free chat to discuss your unique situation and possibilities.

Don’t wait, this is the most important thing you can do for yourself, both to have a baby but even more importantly, because you deserve to feel better and start living the life you want NOW.