Scrolling for implantation symptoms?

Scrolling for implantation symptoms?

Takeaways from my symptom-spotting experience

I had this “Memory” pop up on social media. It was a picture of my husband and me and some friends away for a weekend in Lake Placid, snowshoeing and X-country skiing. There are a couple of things that are difficult to tell from the genuine smile on my face in the photos:

1. The temperature was literally -10 degrees, and 

2. I was about 8 weeks pregnant with my first daughter, after having experienced two pregnancy losses in the prior year.

This “Memory” really struck me. Choosing to spend the weekend outdoors in freezing temperatures is not for the faint of heart anyway...but when 8 weeks pregnant after 2 losses that occurred around that same gestational stage? 

WTH, I thought? What could I possibly have been thinking?? 

And then I remembered:

I had decided I was going to take my life back. That I was going to do everything needed to help myself believe I was as capable as anyone else of growing and nurturing new life. 

I had missed out on some fun outings with friends that prior year when we were TTC, for fear I’d miss my ovulation window or negatively impact a new pregnancy. It didn’t work, and worse, it didn’t feel good. I felt like TTC was ruling my life.

So instead, I gave myself permission to do what I felt. I didn’t stop tracking my cycle, but I only paid attention to it closely when it was around O time and then once I felt like I had done what I could to give myself the best shot that month, I let it go.

Otherwise, I decided to try out giving myself the best shot BY LIVING MY LIFE and seeking out what makes me feel content and happy.

And it worked. That’s how I knew it was okay to go snowshoeing and X-country skiing in frigid temps – I was connected with myself enough I could hear what served me. 

And my first daughter was born 7 months after that super fun trip.

You can try it right this moment – what have you been putting off, limiting or not allowing yourself? What do you want to give yourself permission to grab hold of?

This is what we’ll be doing in my Conception Accelerator Group Coaching program starting April 10. If you want to learn how with my support, visit the Group Coaching page now.

Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for? Try this.

Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for?

Most women who are trying to conceive get caught in a perpetual loop of trying to fix what might be wrong. Trying to figure out why it hasn’t happened yet.

When you’re focused on fixing, you’re focused on something being wrong. Which might be helpful IF there is in fact something wrong. But otherwise it simply keeps you stuck in the energy of not having what you want. 

Try this instead:  

1. Say to yourself “If there’s more I need to do/know about whether I’m pregnant or how to get pregnant asap, it will become apparent. I don’t need to try harder to fix things or know before my body is ready to tell me. I can trust myself to know.”

2. Grab your journal or a piece of paper and write down 5 things you’re looking forward to about being a mom. 

3. For each, spend a moment identify the FEELING you’ll experience when that thing you’re looking forward to actually happens

4. Notice where you feel that emotion in your body, what it feels like to experience what you’re looking forward to about motherhood.

5. Soak in that feeling, and set the intention to return to it when you noice your mind start looping again (eventually it will get easier, I promise).

If your mind jumps in and says “DANGER! Don’t get your hopes up!”, lovingly thank it for trying to protect you from disappointment and see if you can allow the possibility.

Your future results depend on your current thoughts and feelings. By choosing to participate in the thoughts and feelings you’re going for, you connect yourself to those results. 

If you try this, let me know in the comments how it goes. No judgment, just love and compassion. It takes practice, but you are worth it.

Your likelihood of conceiving in the next 8 weeks increases exponentially when you learn to listen within for the answers you need

Learn how, with my support

It took me LOTS of trial and error, time, energy and resources to figure out what actually works, the things people don’t tell you, when you’re trying to conceive. That’s why I first opened KindNest 6 years ago, to help make the process simpler for others.

The first day, I brought my then 2 year old daughter to daycare and when I got back to my car I had a VM from a woman who had heard through the grapevine about the work I was doing.

Like many of us, she was successful in her career and life overall and when she got married the year before she had A PLAN - a timeline in her head as to when she’d have a baby. ⏰ As the months passed, her anxiety level climbed.

So we chatted, she signed up for my program and got started right away. When she got her period that month she was like “great, this doesn’t work, just like nothing else has worked…” and she started exploring fertility treatments and scheduled an IUI for the following month as she continued my program. She called me in tears after her mid cycle checkup revealed she had already ovulated and the treatment she had planned would be pushed out another month.

BUT THEN

💥To her surprise, 2 weeks later, she got her positive pregnancy test! By New Years, she was a mom.

When this happened, I knew I was onto something. If this framework worked for Darcie and me, how many others might it help?

Now I’ve watched women after woman become pregnant in 8 WEEKS OR LESS, whether they’ve been at it for months or years, are “advanced maternal age”, in the midst of fertility treatment or already gave up on it, experienced loss(es), baffled by diagnoses…. everything you can think of, this program has empowered those who have utilized it to become pregnant in less than 8 weeks.

When I was first doing this, it was based on my own education, research and experience. Now, after working with so many others over the last 6 years, I’ve gotten so much feedback and intel, I’ve been able to make it even MORE perfect, narrowing it down to the exact steps that work, time and again.

And that’s what I want to share with you.

🤰🏽Are you next?

Schedule a free Conception Strategy Session today!

Scrolling to distract yourself during the dreaded two-week-wait?

Are you scrolling to distract yourself during the dreaded two-week-wait?

Try This Instead

Grab a piece of paper and Draw a line down the middle. 

• On the left, write down 5 negative things your mind is saying about not being pregnant yet (it’s taking too long, it’s never going to happen, my friends are going to move on without me, I should have been pregnant by now, I’m getting too old…). 

Then…

• On the right, write down all 5 positives of not being pregnant yet (I get to sleep in on the weekends, I can make spontaneous plans without needing a babysitter, I’m not going to xyz after having waited and hoped for so long…). If needed, flip some of your negatives to see their silver linings.
  

Finally…

• Notice how you feel.

This isn’t about trying to ignore feeling the things on the left side of the paper. Often, by acknowledging the positives, the negatives have less weight. That’s all. Wouldn’t it be nice to carry a little less weight as you wait this month?

Try it and let me know in the comments what you notice.