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The Conversation
Through essays, reflections, and research, I explore the hidden ways outdated patterns shape our lives—and what becomes possible when we begin living from conscious choice instead.
These aren't articles about becoming a new version of yourself.
They're invitations to remember the version of your that learned to hide in order to belong, achieve, succeed, or be loved — to give yourself permission to have what you want without working so damn hard to earn it.
Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for? Try this.
Scrolling for early pregnancy symptoms to watch out for?
Most women who are trying to conceive get caught in a perpetual loop of trying to fix what might be wrong. Trying to figure out why it hasn’t happened yet.
When you’re focused on fixing, you’re focused on something being wrong. Which might be helpful IF there is in fact something wrong. But otherwise it simply keeps you stuck in the energy of not having what you want.
Try this instead:
Say to yourself “If there’s more I need to do/know about whether I’m pregnant or how to get pregnant asap, it will become apparent. I don’t need to try harder to fix things or know before my body is ready to tell me. I can trust myself to know.”
Grab your journal or a piece of paper and write down 5 things you’re looking forward to about being a mom.
For each, spend a moment identify the FEELING you’ll experience when that thing you’re looking forward to actually happens
Notice where you feel that emotion in your body, what it feels like to experience what you’re looking forward to about motherhood.
Soak in that feeling, and set the intention to return to it when you noice your mind start looping again (eventually it will get easier, I promise).
If your mind jumps in and says “DANGER! Don’t get your hopes up!”, lovingly thank it for trying to protect you from disappointment and see if you can allow the possibility.
Your future results depend on your current thoughts and feelings. By choosing to participate in the thoughts and feelings you’re going for, you connect yourself to those results.
If you try this, let me know in the comments how it goes. No judgment, just love and compassion. It takes practice, but you are worth it.
Your likelihood of conceiving in the next 8 weeks increases exponentially when you learn to listen within for the answers you need
Learn how, with my support
It took me LOTS of trial and error, time, energy and resources to figure out what actually works, the things people don’t tell you, when you’re trying to conceive. That’s why I first opened KindNest 6 years ago, to help make the process simpler for others.
The first day, I brought my then 2 year old daughter to daycare and when I got back to my car I had a VM from a woman who had heard through the grapevine about the work I was doing.
Like many of us, she was successful in her career and life overall and when she got married the year before she had A PLAN - a timeline in her head as to when she’d have a baby. ⏰ As the months passed, her anxiety level climbed.
So we chatted, she signed up for my program and got started right away. When she got her period that month she was like “great, this doesn’t work, just like nothing else has worked…” and she started exploring fertility treatments and scheduled an IUI for the following month as she continued my program. She called me in tears after her mid cycle checkup revealed she had already ovulated and the treatment she had planned would be pushed out another month.
BUT THEN
💥To her surprise, 2 weeks later, she got her positive pregnancy test! By New Years, she was a mom.
When this happened, I knew I was onto something. If this framework worked for Darcie and me, how many others might it help?
Now I’ve watched women after woman become pregnant in 8 WEEKS OR LESS, whether they’ve been at it for months or years, are “advanced maternal age”, in the midst of fertility treatment or already gave up on it, experienced loss(es), baffled by diagnoses…. everything you can think of, this program has empowered those who have utilized it to become pregnant in less than 8 weeks.
When I was first doing this, it was based on my own education, research and experience. Now, after working with so many others over the last 6 years, I’ve gotten so much feedback and intel, I’ve been able to make it even MORE perfect, narrowing it down to the exact steps that work, time and again.
And that’s what I want to share with you.
🤰🏽Are you next?
Schedule a free Conception Strategy Session today!
Scrolling to distract yourself during the dreaded two-week-wait?
Are you scrolling to distract yourself during the dreaded two-week-wait?
Try This Instead
Grab a piece of paper and Draw a line down the middle.
On the left, write down 5 negative things your mind is saying about not being pregnant yet (it’s taking too long, it’s never going to happen, my friends are going to move on without me, I should have been pregnant by now, I’m getting too old…).
Then…
On the right, write down all 5 positives of not being pregnant yet (I get to sleep in on the weekends, I can make spontaneous plans without needing a babysitter, I’m not going to xyz after having waited and hoped for so long…). If needed, flip some of your negatives to see their silver linings.
Finally…
Notice how you feel.
This isn’t about trying to ignore feeling the things on the left side of the paper. Often, by acknowledging the positives, the negatives have less weight. That’s all. Wouldn’t it be nice to carry a little less weight as you wait this month?
Try it and let me know in the comments what you notice.
Unlocking Your Path to Motherhood: A Healing Approach to Fertility and Motherhood
Unlocking Your Path to Motherhood
A Healing Approach to Fertility and Motherhood
In the whirlwind journey of trying to conceive, it's not uncommon to feel like everyone around you is progressing, leaving you behind in a sea of ovulation sticks, fertility supplements, and the infinite scroll search for a magic solution on social media. That’s where Inner Alignment comes in: it’s for women who want more than anything to believe it's all going to work out, who yearn to relax, trust their bodies, let go of control, and unlock their innate ability to have a healthy baby so they can finally become a member of the mom club.
The Daily Struggle
For many individuals on the path to motherhood, the daily routine is a meticulous dance between fertility tracking, work commitments, self-care rituals, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. The pressure to conceive can cast a heavy shadow, affecting not only your physical health but also your mental and emotional well-being. The constant comparison with others who seem to effortlessly achieve what you desire can be disheartening and rage-inducing, leaving you feeling lost and ashamed.
The Deeper Issue
Stressing about when you'll conceive and trying to expedite the process is, at its root, often about a deeper issue. The weight you've been carrying for years—this sense that you must work extra hard to attain what you want, or that you’re alone and need to put on a happy face for others—is being confirmed by the daily struggle to conceive. This fertility journey becomes a tangible representation of themes that have been persistent throughout your life.
Making Peace with the Past
Enter Inner Alignment Coaching, a transformative program that guides clients to, once and for all, make peace with their past. This crucial step opens the door to conceiving and carrying to term with ease and confidence. The program recognizes that the emotional baggage we carry often manifests physically, impacting fertility and overall well-being. By addressing and releasing these emotional blocks, Inner Alignment Coaching offers a pathway to a more harmonious and balanced life.
My Inner Alignment Coaching program is designed for those who yearn for more than just a checklist of endless fertility-boosting activities. It's for individuals who want more than anything to believe it’s all going to work out, so they can relax and trust their body, let go of control, have a healthy baby and become a member of the mom club.
What Inner Alignment Coaching Offers:
1. A Calm Nervous System:
Learn simple techniques to signal to your body that now is the optimal time for conception and nurturing new life.
Recognize and manage triggers to create a safe space for conception and pregnancy, regardless of external stressors.
2. Clarity Around Your Vision and Emotions:
Define and connect with your unique vision and the emotions tied to motherhood.
Practice aligning with these feelings in your everyday life, fostering a positive mindset and genuine belief it’s going to happen for you.
3. Making Peace with Your Past:
Identify and clear energy blocks that hinder your fertility.
Implement practical tools and strategies to let go of emotional baggage, creating space for new possibilities.
Conclusion
If you're ready to break free from the cycle of stress and uncertainty and truly believe it’s all going to work out, so you can relax and trust you body, Inner Alignment Coaching is the essential missing piece. Embrace a holistic approach to fertility, clear the path to motherhood, and surround yourself with support that understands your unique journey. Your dreams of conceiving, carrying a healthy baby, and joining the mom club can become a reality with Inner Alignment Coaching. It's time to align your inner self with the future you desire and I’m here to show you how.
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