renegade life
The Conversation
Through essays, reflections, and research, I explore the hidden ways outdated patterns shape our lives—and what becomes possible when we begin living from conscious choice instead.
These aren't articles about becoming a
new version of yourself.
They're invitations to remember
the version of you
that learned to hide in order to belong, achieve, succeed, or be loved — to give yourself permission to have what you want without working so damn hard to earn it.
Working with Uncomfortable Emotions | Sarah Denio
When something doesn’t feel good, it’s natural to try not to feel it — who wants pain and suffering? So you tend to try to look the other way, distract yourself from the thought/circumstances/etc that triggered the uncomfortable feelings.
You think about something else, DO something to stay busy enough so you can forget, at least for a little while.
You numb out with alcohol, food, drugs, sex, binging Netflix… It can work!
Problem is, you have to keep doing it for it to work.
But when it’s quiet and still, the unwanted feelings come right back.
“But when it’s quiet and still, the unwanted feelings come right back.”
They’re always waiting.
There’s no amount of sweeping them under the rug that will ever make the pain go away.
It’s what we do, most often, because we haven’t been taught how to fully feel at all AND still be okay.
Once you learn this skill though, the skill of feeling it all and being okay, NOTHING gets to have power over you any longer because you know that, even though you may not have chosen it, whatever happens you can allow it to move through you.
This way you don’t have to keep doing more, distracting yourself, numbing out…
You have that time, energy, resources back.
Life gets easier.
You are free to do what you actually want, not what you must in order to avoid feeling crappy.
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Joy becomes an act of resistance when you decide to reclaim your life-force for what you love and want to contribute, and stop spending it pleasing, perfecting, anticipating, managing, and holding everything together. Outgrowing the Capable Woman Trap means turning toward the pain those patterns once helped protect you from, so you can loosen their hold and make more room for freedom, desire, connection, and the life you’ve been longing for.